Need help friend is going insane!

[dizzy_d]

My friend has has this boyfriend that is constintly going out with her cousin. He never tells her where he's going or where he's been. At first she was asking out of curiosity,but then he just started getting real mean. So she started asking because she was feeling like he was being defensive about something. Sometimes she calls me crying asking what I think? I tell her that her cousin is a scumbag and her boyfriend is probably cheating on her! My question is "when is a guys behavior a clue that he's cheating?" And is there anyway to catch him in the act?

[guitarist420]

Boy, there isn't much happinin on here is there? Where have all the stoners gone?

Anyway...okay...this CAN be complicating, being a guy, I know that there can be a hell of alotta things that can make a dude close himself off to the world, and even without knowing, (believe it or not) misdirect anger towards the ones he cares most about, simply because they are around, and whatever is goin on with the dude at the time, that anger is gonna go somewhere, ESPECIALLY if he knows the problem can't be solved from where he is at in that moment, physically or mentally...

That being said, UNLESS there is something deep goin on with this guy that is troubling him, there isn't any need to get defensive unless....well, you kinda answered your own question...

On the other hand...I gotta say that there are jealous people, and ones who are more mellow, secure if you will, and do not easily get jealous.

I personally hate and will not tolerate jealousy, and the sword cuts both ways. If I'm with a girl and she had a freind before I came in the picture that is a guy, then I will respect that until or unless I sense something just isn't right or just doesn't add up, only then will I inquire or ask questions, depending on the nature of the relationship.<--important.

My motto: If someone doesn't wanna be with me, I don't wanna be with them. In other words, no reason to get upset or depressed about it, let alone jealous.

As far as really knowing what is going on, well, mabee you should consult a detective, but I do best keeping my distance from authority!